Lay Aside Your Cape

Nov. 18, 2020

You simply cannot fix everything, no matter how hard you try. My husband took notice of my tireless efforts to make everything right when I was caregiving and juggling all the other responsibilities I had at the time. He told me repeatedly that I was not superwoman. Once I began to think seriously about what he meant, I had to accept that some things were just out of my control, and that I could not do everything.  For example, my mother’s periodic medical challenges or the changes in her personality took place unexpectedly with no thought for what was on my calendar.  I especially had to learn that I could not change others who were slack in their familial responsibilities in caregiving. Nor could I make up for what they were not doing. As I practiced putting my cape aside, I began to focus on doing what was in my power to do. That helped me to be consistent in my support and to accept whatever the day would bring. What would you consider the hardest thing about taking off your cape?

Published by Ardella

My mother’s experience through Alzheimer’s was nearly a 5-year journey. During that time, I learned how to be a caregiver along with other family members and friends. During that time I kept a journal which I later turned into the book, Learning to Love Olivia: A Daughter’s Journal of Her Mother’s Journey Through Alzheimer’s. This blog will draw on some of that content along with my experiences with other caregivers and will hopefully offer support and encouragement to those who find themselves walking in the same shoes.

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